Moving with kids can seem daunting, but there are a number of things that you can do to make the transition smoother and easier on them.
As our families grow, many of us move to bigger spaces and family-friendly areas.
However, that also means moving our children into a new area, an experience which can be really stressful… for both parties!
As parents, many of us wonder how a move will affect our child. Will they be able to make new friends? Will they feel safe and secure? How bad will the adjustment period be?
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The short answer, of course, is that children are more resilient than we usually give them credit for. Even though there might be a little bit of stress at the start, they’ll probably adapt to their new home faster than you yourself do.
However, in order to help the moving process go a little more smoothly, below are some ideas to make moving with kids easier.
Ways to Make Moving with Kids Easier
Introduce them to the Space Early
As you yourself look for a new home, you know that this phase can be really exciting. Looking at a new house, you imagine how you’ll decorate, use the area, and spend time with your family.
Let your children be a part of this excitement. They can help you plan and envision what it will be like to live in this space. You can help them be excited about the move by giving them options for their own spaces (i.e. what color do they want their room to be, etc.) Emphasize the advantages of the new area.
Get Them Involved
The faster that your child makes new friends, the easier it will be for them to adjust to a new place. It’s true that this can’t always be forced; to a certain extent, it’s something that might just take some time.
However, you can help it along by asking the school to give you and your child a tour ahead of time. This can help your child feels more at home at their new school. Another great option is to involve your child in after-school activities where they can meet kids who share their interests.
Be sure to set a good example by getting involved and being friendly yourself. Your child will follow your example and determine their comfort level according to yours. Sometimes, your friendly overtures will smooth the way for them to make new friends.
Provide Ways to Stay in Touch
Often, the hardest part of moving for a child is leaving all their friends behind. Remember that when we’re young, it’s especially hard to stay in touch and maintain friendships from far away. Most of the time, it feels like we’re simply subject to the whims of our parents, and unable to determine much about our own life.
So, as a parent, you can help the transition go smoothly by enabling your child to keep in touch with old friends. Set up Facetime appointments. Brainstorm ways for them to have time to play together if you go back to the area later.
It could be that as your child adjusts to their new home, it will be less important for them to stay in touch with old friends. But, allow that to be dictated by your child’s needs.
Include Some Continuity
So much is going to change, and spaces that feel familiar might feel like havens as your child goes through the hardest part of the adjustment. Even things as simple as giving the kitchen the same layout, concentrating familiar furniture and fabrics into a room, or maintaining certain family traditions will all give your child a sense of continuity and security.
Moving day can be so stressful. And depending on the age of your children, their mere presence can make it that much worse. If children get underfoot, you’re at a high risk for accidents and injury. Children can also get lost, and even if no accidents happen, your child is sure to absorb some of the stress of the situation.
So instead of having them around on the day of, look for a way to get kids out of the way during the day of the actual move. See if a family member will look after them at their house, stay in a hotel for a night or two, and provide activities elsewhere.
Putting these tips to action should help to make your move go more smoothly for your little ones.
Have you gone through a move since you have had children? Do you have any tips for moving with kids? If so, share them with us in the comments section below!
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